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From left: Rachel Fox, Jodi Derkson and Jody Radu. here are inhibited, Fox says. are ghettoized, we don intermingle and the landscape isn conducive to community. He dated five years younger than his age, and up to 15 years older. The conversation about the impossibility of finding man love in Lotus Land ricochets between raucous laughter and thoughtful reflection until the table goes silent and Knockoff hermes tote bag canvas the subject finally sinks, like a stone thrown in an impossibly dark wishing well.

"This is not a lighthearted issue," says Jodi Derkson. "There is a serious problem here."


This is Vancouver, the women explain, in conversational shorthand that speaks volumes about the city's widely perceived shortcomings for straight daters. (Same sex dating in Vancouver has its own set of opportunities and challenges that warrants a whole other article.)

For many singles, the stepping stones to love's distant shore are broken or missing the appreciative or inviting smiles, casual conversations struck up on street corners, in bars, restaurants, grocery lineups and online dating offer only a small pool of confused and confusing possibilities.

"I don't know what the problem is here," says Jody Radu. At 46, Radu is tall and graceful with a sweet smile and a sexy rock chic style. Radu has been married once, has no kids, and a career in the entertainment industry that brings her into daily contact with some of music's biggest artists. She's happy with her life. Not jaded, no hard edges, no obvious baggage. But when it comes to a real, satisfying relationship imitation hermes bag outlet lover, boyfriend, partner there's a gap."I'll talk to anyone, I've been online, tried all the websites, I make allowances, too. I've been attracted to people that didn't fit my 'type': maybe someone's not good on the phone, maybe they're not good on email, maybe it just wasn't a good photo. Maybe the chemistry will be there in person."

For all her efforts online, there has been a zero compatibility outcome. For a lark one night, she posted a personal ad on Craigslist. The next morning she had dozens of replies. She followed up with email contact. Most of the guys wanted her photo before going further. Once they saw it, their pictures started coming in. Radu shakes her head. "The guys were delusional. An out of shape 60 year old? No thanks."

For the last few months, since Vancouver magazine ran the first names only article "Do Vancouver Men Suck?" ("Yes" was the only answer that could be read between the lines), the question has hung over Vancouver's dating scene like a pall. Even before the article ran, women were, well, bitching. "My friends and I talk about this all the time," says Radu. For the record, she says, "I don't think Vancouver men suck. They could dress a little better, though."

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So, why is it so hard to meet someone in Vancouver? Is it geography? Is it part of the city's identity that the dating scene is as tricky to negotiate as its landscape, divided by waterways and forbidding mountains?

Is it the way the city is spread out and shuts down early, its denizens more likely to rise at dawn to pound up the North Shore mountains on their bikes before work than lie in and roll over for a little good morning sex?

Is it our ethnic enclaves that divide us?

Is it seasonal affective disorder, a collective low libido?

"There is a lack of sexuality in Vancouver," says Derkson, bluntly. Derkson is petite, tanned, toned, with a bright smile: her nails are done, her hair is thick and full. She looks like she's got a personal groomer on call.

At 47, Derkson has no kids, and has never been married imitation fashion jewelry bracelets nor is she desperate to get hitched. She'd be happy with just a little more warmth and sensuality. A little response. "No one smiles at you on the street here! People are cold."

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